[hamm]

I'm trying to convince my wife to get a concealed carry permit and thought I'd get her a book about it to "convince" her. I've heard that Paxton Quigley's Stayin' Alive: Armed and Female in an Unsafe World is a good one. Do any of you female CCers have any suggestions?

 

[doconix]

Not a book, but this web site:

http://www.corneredcat.com/TOC.aspx

is written for women, by a woman. It's got a lot of good information on it (for guys, too).

 

[doconix]

Here's another one that is really good and has great pics of women with guns:

http://www.a-human-right.com/introduction.html

You can see the more recent artwork here:

http://olegvolk.net/gallery/technology/arms/

The good ones start about halfway down the page. There's multiple pages here too.

The guy is the same one who runs http://www.thehighroad.org/.

As a side note, though, I would be very careful about "pushing" your wife into getting a permit. I've been working on my wife for some time, and she's finally coming around to the idea, but if you push too hard you'll just push her away. Let her come on her own. Don't bring up guns all the time. Don't show her your carry gun -- just have it there out of sight. Hopefully she'll see it's no different than carrying a cell phone or a wallet if you don't make a big deal out of it. Or she may never come around to the idea. What I do know is that pushing only makes things worse.

See this page for a woman's perspective: http://www.corneredcat.com/Men/wifehateguns.aspx

 

[natehunts]

When I got my permit I asked my wife to sit in on it with me and get hers too. I used the example if I have a gun concealed in the car and I step out to get gas or she takes the car somewhere that she will be legal too and not have any problems. Plus I told her that she is going to be around guns for the rest of her life, and our kids too so any information about guns is good information. So she sat in on the group and got her permit. She doesn't carry and I don't expect her to until she feels ready. But now that she has her permit she has shown more interest in it.

 

[GeneticsDave]

I just wanted to chime in here. I checked the Paxton Quigley book out from the library a while back to "get my wife into the idea of carrying." It sat on her nightstand untouched for 3 weeks. So, I picked it up and read it - it's a good read, it's something we all should read. So, after finishing the book, I really wanted my wife to carry (to protect herself and my son while out and about), but pushing it didn't work. So, I jumped online and found the CorneredCat web page along with the others mentioned here and recommended them to my wife - even went into the other room to load them up on her laptop so she could peruse them - still no progress. So, I was reading along and found that it's best not to push - although it was all I wanted to do.

I would recommend following the advice listed here. Do you own thing, answer her questions and let her know why you carry and that you will support her with any decision she makes.

My wife and I had a long conversation and she has mulled over the idea. She doesn't feel the need to carry, but has resolved that if someone comes into our home and threatens any member of the family, she would use the gun without hesitation.

Be a supportive and loving husband - that will win you more "brownie points" than gun talk ever will.

Best wishes,

Dave

 

[bane]

Getting my wife to carry was easy... I just refused to talk to her or go anywhere with her until she packed heat!

j/k

My wife doesn't carry yet -- she does shoot with me, she did go to the CC class with me, she is submitting her app for her permit. Mostly she doesn't carry b/c she doesn't feel she can carry in the clothes she wears without feeling weird... we're working on that but I'm trying not to be pushy about it. I figure if she shoots with me and gets her permit, she'll figure out the other part on her own in enough time... of course, I just hope her time never gets cut short...

 

[GeneticsDave]

Getting my wife to carry was easy... I just refused to talk to her or go anywhere with her until she packed heat!

ROTF LMBBO (Bum-bum as my son calls it)

 

[Paul]

I purchased the Paxton Quigley book on someones recommendation (can't remember who) and I read the whole book. I thought it was very good. My wife has read about 2/3 of it. It hasn't changed her mind, but I know she has learned a lot from it. My wife also has her permit, but hasn't ever carried. I think she may some day though.

-PW