Divorce is an evil which is pervading this country worse than the Black Death! The evils of divorce are wide and varying, affecting all segments of society. Divorce affects not only parents involved in the divorce, but children, the most innocent of all, and this affects them severely through the rest of their lives. Some are so traumatized that they revert to messing their pants, others are affected to such an extent that it disrupts there ability to concentrate at school, but for most of them their behavior modifies, and not in a good way.
Most children of divorce begin showing many different signs of depression which continues through their teens and follows them into their lives as adults. Many become career criminals, most have some trouble with the law, most end up getting divorced themselves. Much of this is due to the example the received from their parents, and not being able to recognize the same behaviors in themselves.
Often in divorce children pit parent against parent in trying to vie for attention, or things which in essence only replace the love they are being denied. More frequently parents use the children against each other with no thought for the evil they do their children. This manifests in their behavior both in court, and at home. Those who mentally abuse their children by denigrating their former spouse out of spite damage their children beyond belief! This is totally unacceptable! This is a disservice to them and to society at large. The cost to them and society are a terrible tragedy.
Divorce is a terrible evil and is a huge cancer to society! If it is something that becomes a necessity (which in reality is extremely rare!) then do your children the favor of at least being cordial to one another--for the children's sake!
Remember that the courts and your lawyers don't really give a [edited by moderator]. They are there to make money off of you in whatever way they can!
If divorce becomes a necessity and both parties are unwilling to live by the vows they made at their wedding the only way to properly adjudicate custody is as follows--the way the courts and lawyers want to do it--be [edited by moderator]!:
Parent 1 gets all children for the first year, pays for everything themselves including, food, housing, insurance, clothing, school supplies etc. At the end of the year they get the benefit of using the children when they prepare their taxes. They also have the children for all holidays during that year, period. If a holiday falls on parent 2's weekend, fine, otherwise parent 1 has all holidays and birthdays as described above. This in no way means that parent 2 cannot attend any functions involving the children during the year, in fact it is encouraged. Parent 1 must notify parent 2 of such activities or events so they may attend for the children's benefit. There will be no alimony or child support, period!
Parent 2 has visitation every other weekend all year long and cannot be denied this right or parent one goes to jail and parent two then gets the children.
Year 2 this reverses and the children are in the custody of parent 2, that parent gets all the positive and negative responsibilities which parent 1 got the first year.
Parent 1 has visitation during year two as described above.
This reverses every year until the children are 18.
Neither divorced parent may move or accept a job which is over 50 miles from the other & the children must attend a school equidistant to both parents (50/50 distance between their separate homes).
Property should be equally divided between both parties except for items from their respective families which have sentimental value, such as items from a parent or grandparent or sibling.
The divorce should be filled out and signed by both parties only to be signed by a judge for final disposition of the mutually acceptable decree. (limited government interference)
Do this and this cancer will decrease and society will benefit tremendously!