I say, ignore comments you may otherwise feel uncomfortable with. Most of us may say something on the forum in an effort to express our feelings, ideas and experience and to not only share those with others, but to get feed back as well. Heck, I know I don't always agree with some individuals here, but I have learned from them & give them respect as well. For instance I recently received nice praise for a comment from TMG, and I know he & I have had words on here before over difference of opinions. The thing is, I too have learned not to take things personally, if I did I wouldn't be here either learning or sharing and no one would be any better off. So I say again, Shaolin, stay, attend the dinner if able---loaded for bear or not--and continue to be a responsible & effective communicator on this site.